We often hear that for every person, there is one other who is the ideal partner. This partner is a soul mate. The fiction behind this is that you will never find true happiness if you commit to someone other than one and only intended. The whole concept of having a soulmate goes back to the Third Century and the teachings of Plato.
This idea has been the source of dissolution in relationships. When one partner is dissatisfied, they think the reason is that they are not with the right person. Then they go on to look for the one who will make them complete.
The Greeks thought that each individual person was only a fraction of a larger entity. Therefore, one’s life’s work was to find the missing piece to make themselves whole again.
This sounds good, but is it really possible? It sounds absurd, but even with our modern advancements and thinking, we find ourselves seeking the perfect one.
If the perfect soulmate is a real thing, what exactly does that mean? Is it someone with whom you feel an attachment? Or is it the perfect communication partner?
The only one for me.
The danger in believing that there is just one person/soul to complete us is just plain unrealistic. If you convince yourself that there is truly a right one, you can miss out on love and life. You also risk making yourself unhappy as you seek out someone who meets every one of your requirements.
I’m nothing without you.
A mistake people who are on the soul mate hunt make is they think they need someone else to make them truly whole. All around us, we see how there is beauty in discordance. You don’t have to find someone who moves in perfect unison with you; you can find someone who adjusts to your rhythms and embraces your differences. This will allow for an equal partnership. If you are looking for someone to complete you, you may find that you are doing all of the work to keep a relationship on track.
Finding the right one
Regardless of whether or not you believe there is just one for you, you can read the signs of a healthy relationship.
If you respect each other, your partner’s thoughts and ideas are just as important as yours. You both openly listen to each other and contribute to making everything better for each other. Rather than getting tired of each other, every day you spend together deepens your attachment. Another sign is that your overall happiness increases. A healthy relationship may or may not be a soulmate relationship, but if it makes you both happy, stay together and build something special. Soulmates are those that fill our soul and heart with love and mutual respect for one another. This is what really matters.
“Just find someone who adjusts to your rhythms”? Sounds like a relationship built on yoga classes and harmonious playlists. Good luck with that!
I absolutely loved this article! It really resonates with me. The idea of finding someone who complements you rather than completes you is so refreshing!
“You don’t need someone to complete you.” That’s great! So we can all just be single puzzle pieces rolling around in life? Sounds fun!
‘You complete me’ – oh please, where’s my dramatic movie soundtrack? Can we please get real about love and stop expecting fairy-tale endings?
‘Soulmate’ is just a term used to romanticize dependency. People need to understand that love can thrive without the notion of an ideal partner – it’s about commitment and growth together!
‘Soulmates or not, relationships take effort.’ That’s probably the only universally accepted truth here.
‘Sharing snacks’? That’s the secret to a healthy relationship? Now that’s some groundbreaking advice!
‘Effort’ might be overrated; sometimes it’s just about sharing snacks and binge-watching shows together.
This article presents an interesting perspective on relationships and the concept of soulmates. It’s crucial to recognize that individual happiness should come from within, not solely from another person.
What a load of nonsense. This whole soulmate concept is just a fairytale for people who can’t handle reality. Relationships are about work, not some magical connection.