We always seek someone to love; however, we forget to love the person who needs our care and attention more than anyone else. Yes! We forget to love ourselves. And the question is: how can we expect others to love us if we don’t? Even if we don’t love ourselves, people see awesome things and qualities about us that we don’t. It’s not selfish to love ourselves, but it’s appreciative! Loving ourselves gives us the power needed to be able to love others. It even helps us make the world around us a better place.
But the question is: how to love ourselves?
- Be yourself!
Never try to be a copy of someone else! Every human has their own potential. God gave us all gifts to differentiate us from anyone else! We were created to be unique!
Look for good qualities you have. Ask your friends: what do you like most about me? And believe me, they will tell us things about ourselves you never noticed. They will tell you about situations you were involved in and how you reacted. They will tell you they were impressed and never expected you to react this way! They will tell you: that you are so patient, generous, and kind; they will tell you many lovely things you never knew about yourself.
- Learn how to sell yourself!
Smile is the secret word. Say Hi! Good Morning, Thank you, and Have A Good Day!….. These words are magic! Say it in a smiley voice, change your tone, and make it cheerful!
Be considerate and make others feel they matter! They will love you, and when you know that you are loved, you will love yourself in return!
- Forgive yourself
Learn how to forget your mistakes and forgive yourself. So many people keep thinking about the mistakes they made during the day before falling asleep! This gives them very negative ideas about what they are. Stop saying to yourself: “I am stupid,” “I am ugly,” and “I am a bad mom”! Instead, try to work on your behavior and ethics and don’t repeat the same mistakes in the future. We are all humans, and we make mistakes. No one is perfect!
- Stay confident!
Stay away from people who keep criticizing you, people who make you feel inferior. But, if you have to deal with such people and you have no choice, for example, your manager at work, then you have to face it and be confident. Don’t let him make you feel less confident or reduce your self-esteem. Also, if you feel that this person is criticizing you for your good and that you really need to improve a specific skill, then don’t take it to heart and get used to the tip instead.
- Learn to say “NO”
You don’t have to say “YES” to everyone, especially offending people. Show them objection. Show them that you love and respect yourself. Simply ignore them! Don’t let anyone make you do something you don’t want to do! Don’t do anything just to satisfy someone! Especially if they don’t deserve it!
Above all, take care of yourself and show yourself some much needed love. This is not only better for physical and mental well-being, but will help you share your best self with the world and inspire others.