Women often have the impression that finding “the one” is direct and clear. He asks her out on a first date, he likes her, and he asks her out again and again. They see each other more and more. Finally, they decide to be exclusive, make plans, and fall in love. Eventually, he “pops the question,” and they get married and live happily ever after.
Unfortunately, the way it really plays out is rarely, if ever, that clear. Often, a man doesn’t know how he’s going to feel in the long term. Similarly, he may not know what he really wants. This makes it critical to give a true impression of yourself from the very start.
In a man’s eyes, the problem with women in relationships is that the more he gives, the more she will expect. He thinks that he will give and give and give, and eventually, she’ll never be happy no matter how much more he gives or what he does. Therefore, many men will deny how they really feel until they’re absolutely certain they want to be in a relationship with that woman. Because as soon as “the L-word” enters the conversation, her expectations will be impossible for him to meet.
All a woman needs to do to change how he views her. She should expect to appear irresistible to him. The less you try to influence him, the higher your value will be to him. And the higher your value, the more radiant you will appear to him. He’ll see your self-worth and self-esteem which are rare qualities in women. This will make him realize, “Hey, she makes it so easy to be in a relationship with her!” Then before he knows it, he’s invested, he’s emotionally attached, and he’s ready to commit 100%.
There’s no ultimatum needed on your part. You don’t need to have the “Where are we going?” or the “Are we exclusive?” talk. Let him think that all of the ideas are coming from him. Because he’ll have come to realize by now that somebody else might snatch you away from him if he doesn’t step up to the plate.
If exclusivity isn’t firmly planted in his heart or he’s not emotionally ready, there is no reason to try forcing him or talking him into it. The only commitment that will work and matter to a man is the one he truly feels.
The sooner you realize you can’t control a man, the better it will be for you. So instead of working on your desirability factor, become a woman a guy is willing to sacrifice for. That’s the only way to gain 100% commitment.
It’s even possible to upgrade a “friend with benefits” arrangement into a serious relationship by abandoning anxiety-ridden, controlling behaviors. Men who lie to the women they love, cheat on women, and don’t communicate can be cultivated into men who crave long-term, lasting relationships. Become irresistible, and his expectations will change. You’ll get that 100% commitment.
*Insert eye roll* So basically, if you want a guy to commit, just act like you’re not interested? Sounds like a recipe for disaster.
I loved this article! It’s refreshing to see a take on relationships that emphasizes self-worth and confidence. Totally agree that being irresistible starts from within!
‘Abandon anxiety-ridden behaviors’? Sounds like the author has never been in a real relationship. This advice feels pretty unrealistic.
This post raises some valid points about expectations in relationships. It might be worthwhile for both men and women to reflect on their roles.
But let’s not forget; both parties need to communicate openly instead of dancing around feelings!
True! It’s essential for both partners to understand each other’s needs rather than just focusing on one side.
‘Become a woman a guy is willing to sacrifice for.’ So what are we doing? Setting up an altar and asking for offerings?
‘Upgrade a friend with benefits’? Is this dating or an app update? 😂 Love the humor in this article!
Honestly, this is just another article pushing the idea that women should change themselves for men. Why should anyone have to play games to find love?
I completely see your point, but I think it’s more about understanding dynamics than playing games.
Exactly! Relationships should be about genuine connection, not manipulation.
Interesting perspective on dating dynamics. It’s true that emotional readiness plays a huge role in commitment. Communication is key!